I left the Sister Souljah book signing at Atlanta Fulton Public Library last night a little perturbed for two reasons.
1. No pictures or video were allowed. I managed to sneak this one as she walked by.

Obviously not my best work. Comical really.
2. Midnight’s love interest is Japanese. Initially, I had no issue with this match up. I grew up on an island that touts its diversity. I was raised in a culture that believes love transcends race. After hearing Sister Souljah discuss her new book Midnight and the Meaning of Love, however, I began questioning the match up. Why didn’t Midnight fall in love with an African American female character? More importantly, what are the implications of Midnight’s love life for the millions of African American women, young and old, who desire to be in fulfilling relationships and purchase the book trying to find “the meaning of love”? Annoyance and a drop of despair hit me when she addressed African American women (who probably made up 99% of the audience) saying, “Ghetto love is militant. You’re not supposed to be militant with your man” (hummm a bit ironic Sister “SOULJAH”).
Now I’m Afro-Caribbean American and I didn’t grow up in an inner city borough like Brooklyn so I won’t claim to understand the complete dynamics of “ghetto” love. The closest I’ve come to dating a “gangster” is a black guy from Camden who loved to shop at Whole Foods and watch documentaries. But there’s gotta be more to it than the one dimensional, ignorant, culture devoid manifestation that her discussion hinted at. The talk felt yet again like African American women were being singled out and told your love is not good enough, you don’t know how to love a man right so don’t be surprised if he gets his lovin’ elsewhere.
Although she has every right to explore her creativity and develop a range of characters, she dropped the ball on this one. Here was her chance to offer African American women a model of what healthy black love could look like and she did not. Here was her chance to demonstrate to African American women, who are probably her biggest fans, that they could cultivate within themselves the kind of spirituality that attracts long lasting relationships but instead she choose to pair Midnight with a Japanese woman. The Coldest Winter Ever was a “cautionary tale about drugs.” Her new book is definitely not a celebratory tale about black love. Are our fellow African American sisters so hopeless that one of the most influential pop writers of black culture couldn’t create an African American female character who “deserved to be loved”? Hopefully in her upcoming books on Portia Santiaga and Midnight she will.
Sister Souljah, you say men don’t want or respect women who invite them into their most private spaces after 24 hours but you leave it up to Zane to offer an example of Black on Black love.
The streets will not love you back and for African American women, neither will Midnight!